Sex is FREE!

I have been wondering how I can use Facebook to do some good for myself, my friends and the world. I have contributed to a few causes and attended events I never would have using Facebook. Last week I begged my friends to set me up on a blind date in my status. I was mathematically sure that 5-6 of my girlfriends could set me up with the only bachelor left in our large BDSM circle. I was probably going to say no because, to be honest with you, he does not really seem to care for me.

However he QUICKLY volunteered himself which was surprising ! On paper he is just fine for me and is either similar in some ways or compatible in others. For instance he is self employed as well eliminating the jealousy that arises when dating a 9-5 drone who answers to a boss first and foremost.

I was surprised, upon meeting him in person, that he knows very little about me and that maybe it is why he volunteered himself. We met for coffee. Again he only seemed mildly interested in the conversation but maybe that is as joyful as he ever gets. Before we were officially a couple, I gave my second husband (the grumpy sys admin at my first Internet-related job) a Matt Groening postcard-sized comic called “The Many Moods Of Binky” (doctored to his name). It had the same Binky impression 25 times over with 25 emotions named below such as ecstatic, elated, happy, sad, etc. So you know I am all about entertaining myself while I try to get my point across. Some guys are not really emo-tive.

I am looking for a primary partner who is in my age range, ideally a bit older but I am always mortified of meeting a guy the first time. It usually means being disappointed in yet another guy who has baggage or needs too much validation to be with someone who is independent and fulfilled. I once saw a t-shirt that reads “I have two cats and a vibrator: What are you going to do for me?” I thought that it kind of describes me if instead it says “I have 3 lovers, a house and a kid (and a cat and a vibrator): What are you going to do for me?”

I only met with him because he is in the good graces of the women I admire most for being independent trailblazers. I figured that maybe he wont hold my independence against me if he is friends with them. That also means he should not be put off by my choice of eccentric hobbies and pastimes. So I would say that the 20-minute coffee meeting went well because I realized 90 minutes later that I was going to be late for my next thing ( ;P was continuation of my day-long date… )

I analyzed his reaction to me and his follow-up e-mail with BF#1. He said “not so good …”. BF#2 said ” he will ask you out again ! “. I realized that it doesn’t matter, what is cool is that “I analyzed…” which is a telltale sign that I gave a fuck what he thinks. I have a bunch of stuff I never got to asking him the first time around. But nothing has really changed, he still comes off as the guy who doesn’t really seem interested in me.

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