Everything can spoil your love life; if you let it.
Just got back from a first lunch-date and felt a little weird going in because I am in a the ever so rare Rammstein mood… But more Feuer frei! than Du Hast (Nich)… Always a bad idea to go into a meeting in that frame of mind, even if it is an actual ‘I’ll make you taste the concrete floor’ kind of meeting. But this wasn’t at all. As I said before I am on a quest for highly intellectual interactions and this is what I got. And for being fun and patient and recently growing a beard, I think the gentleman will get a home cooked dinner at some point. (Yes I do like beards and I am one of only two people who has added ‘chest hair’ to their fetish list in FetLife. Take that metrosexuals.)
Marriage counsellors often see couples who believe that sex should always be perfect, and if someone is meant to be with you then they will know what you want without you needing to communicate it.
Rom-coms ’spoil your love life’
I have always been very curious to know how porn hurts men’s sex life in little or large ways whether they were raised on it (today’s teens unfortunate early exposure to hardcore internet pornography) or adopted it later in in life. This article though is super interesting because I’d never pondered how sitcoms and romantic comedies will do the same thing to women (and men.)
I am all for an intentional and educated approach to everything. The statement quoted above touches a nerve. The ‘meant to be together’ attitude that people have towards relationships is such a load of crap. It is fatalistic and when someone says: “It wasn’t meant to be” or “It didn’t work out” I always think “WTF?!” What is this magical It that you are referring to?!
I like to make vanilla peeps flip out by asking them questions like… “Well did you ever actually sit down with your boyfriend and discuss what ‘fidelity’ means?” I love how women are absolutely sure that their definition of that is the absolute and obvious truth and that their boyfriend should have been born with that knowledge. Guys have the most entertaining definitions for fidelity, it’s really worth asking them this question.
I’ve been wrestling with the idea of writing a romantic comedy series for men aimed at the Spike TV demographics. Upon discussing plot possibilities, one partner said: “So basically it’s autobiographical?!” That gave me pause…
Kimberly Johnson, who also worked on the study, said: “Films do capture the excitement of new relationships but they also wrongly suggest that trust and committed love exist from the moment people meet, whereas these are qualities that normally take years to develop.” Rom-coms ’spoil your love life’
What she said.
Don’t you just hate movies that end with the wedding?
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