Amour & Séduction
Hearing the comments of vanilla people as they exited The Dungeon at the Everything to do with Sex Show kind of made it worth my while. I was minding the FetLife booth for a few shifts on Saturday and the crowd was way more vanilla than I had expected.
I have become so un-phased by anything sexual, seemingly perverted or perhaps deviant that I forget what BDSM or Alt sexuality looks like to the uninitiated. It’s like vanilla people are not detached from other people’s behavior or sexuality and feel personally offended or involved somehow and must defend themselves by passing a comment or judgment. The biggest misconception about BDSM I encountered is that it is coercive or non consensual in nature. For some reason, people were afraid that they would be pulled into getting tied up or spanked as soon as they entered the Dungeon. I just told them to gawk away and ask questions if they wanted. In the D/s lifestyle, unless you are REALLY assertive or even agressive as a bottom, you will never get to play. If you are socially awkward as a Top you are likely to suffer the same fate LOL
I for one, like the asking for play, the negotiation process and the waiting (or looking forward to) and that is why I spend 95% time socializing and 5% time playing over an average year and for now that is fine with me. I was way overdressed (prude!) for the occasion but still mingled with a few hot Doms. I don’t expect anyone I meet out of the blue to ‘get’ what I am about or understand where I sit on the scale because I Mentor certain people and serve others. Really it’s a case-by-case thing.
The Mortician chatted with me and I asked him to string me up in the suspension bondage frame (I call him that because he was wearing a cute mortician shirt when I first met him 2 years ago.) The red ropes looked very good against my black outfit and I was suspended on my back. It was my second suspension, the first one I did in a Midori intensive Rope Dojo a few years ago and it pinched like Hell. This time it was very pleasant but for the sore neck and the migraine from Hell. I think it took me about 3-4 minutes to settle into it. I commented to my rigger that the position I was in would be perfect for a certain sexual act. Oh the things I will say when inconvenienced by dozens of onlookers…
I did have a great time with Erus (whom I had on loan from LadyC for some of the afternoon) and ran into a few key people. I took in a workshop on anal sex presented by a woman from Toronto who had the most awesome way of speaking French.
I spent all of Sunday in excruciating pain, which I already knew would happen. This week I will see about my pain level because it has gotten out of hand again with the fall a few months ago.
I had planned on being back in the gym by now, I’m really bummed out about my health again.
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