Sex is FREE; but they get you on the accessories!!!

I tried to comment on this post on Jezebel but it didn’t work for some reason so here it goes.

There is controversy brewing about Dr. Bachmann’s practice in the media. Last night, Jon Stewart and Jerry Seinfeld did a very funny segment on Mr. Bachmann’s apparently gay affect. Jon called him a hypocrite which shocked me. I am a coach myself, I teach men to attain relationship and sexual bliss. A lot of that involves establishing a strategy and putting in into play over many months. Journalists deride the Bachmann’s in various ways bout it is obvious to me that these are two sincere individuals. You can’t be sincere AND a hypocrite at the same time. You can be sincere AND completely wrong that’s for sure. I have researched the ‘pray the gay away’ movement and come to the conclusion that the only people who sincerely think that homosexuality is a choice are the people who have chosen not to be gay. I am someone who has specifically chosen my lifestyle and constructed a life of bliss based on my vision of adulthood since I was 12 (i.e. being an influential person in the life of my friends and enjoying a non-monogamous lifestyle of knowledge, play and sex) The Bachmanns seem to me like people who have accomplished that as well. They seem happy together, sound sincere when they speak and have raised 5 children and fostered two dozen more. As a couple who devotes time every single day to the welfare of other, they are exceptional. They are walking the walk on what THEY sincerely believe unlike the Koch whores who make up a considerable amount of Congress. Considering what appears to be Mr. Bachmann’s choice, it’s probably not easy! I can’t deride them for making a choice and sticking to it and I understand why their first jest would be to get others in on their bliss!

The caveat is that I know from experience that embarking into a ‘role’ in adulthood or a relationship can be, as Michele says: ‘Bondage!’ and lead to heart disease, depression and regret in some people. Life is kinda short and that tends to hit home in the 40s. And you thought that was a mid-life crisis?!

Now as much as I admire them for their family skills, they would be unlikely to admire me. I gladly travel on the edge of society and every time I’ve gone once around, I discover that the edge has moved a little bit outward and once again I go. I upgrade my knowledge of how people think, feel and love on a daily basis. The Bachmanns, however, are running on legacy software. Faith is one thing. For instance, it’s quite cool that God speaks to Michele directly. Hey God speaks directly to me too! But I suspect her entourage may also have helped convince her to go into politics. Religion is a whole nother ball game though. It’s a program. And religious people’s reasoning is based on a database of information which has little to do with facts or science. Clusters of people who run on the same legacy software like Catholicism or Evangelical Christianism are natively compatible and they get along swell. Often these people are in the same age group so their priorities are similar as well. But their legacy software is full of security holes (superstitions) that pose a REAL threat to progressive society. But when legacy software people try to broadcast their antiquated ideas and pseudo facts to a generation under 30, we collectively return a WTF?! error. And that happens en masse during political campaigns.

There are moneyed interests whom, after years of investing in think tanks, have figured out a way to hack the legacy software and install it in all aspects of U.S. life with devastating effect. And kudos to them for acting at the exact right time when people who run on buggy and insecure legacy software are still young enough to be bought and used in politics, notably the U.S. Congress. And what a resounding success it has been for the roll back of human rights in the U.S.

Just so you understand my position here :

It is wrong to prevent people from unionizing or uniting for a cause when corporations can have unlimited amount of lawyers. It is abusive to prevent people from expressing their gender and sexuality. It is psychologically abusive to indoctrinate children into a religion. It is anti-humanistic to remove access to sexual health preventative medical care. It is just plain cruel to declare women unable to make decisions about their own heath and reproduction. And, it is also wrong to micro-manage a soldier’s career based on whether or not they attend religious rallies organized by some of their leaders.

You know when you grow up and suddenly realize that your parents don’t know any better, are blatantly wrong, are somewhat embarrassingly daft. Well it must be how some young adults are feeling in the U.S. At least I hope that that is how they are feeling because they are stuck interacting with people who refuse to upgrade their database to include recently acquired knowledge, scientific progress and a reasonable understanding of how people experience their lives today. Unfortunately we can’t enlighten them against their will. We could try to influence them by writing what is important to us on 100$ bills! Perhaps Colbert SuperPAC can make a difference even though progressives are a few years lacking in that effort.

It is important to push DIFFERENT people into politics. Sincere people who make sense. Michele and Marcus represent a subset of the population who are working hard to turn all of us into the gut bacteria of giant multinational corporations. That is their hopes and dreams for the future.

But take the case of Ron Paul. I don’t know if his policies are all feasible yet but researching them is quite an adventure! Heck he could be sincere AND wrong like the Bachmanns but most of what he says makes enough sense to me to be involved into researching whether or not ending the Federal Reserve is feasible or even a good idea. Mr. Paul is sincere and consistent and that has netted him his own army of followers and helpers. When Ron Paul speaks you get the impression he is speaking to the priorities of his core supporters who affect his work through volunteering, not just giving money!!! So it is possible for non-billionaires to affect the quality of politician we get!

So your homework today is to change the world changing the politicians. You will look around you and try to spot that one person under 30 whom you feel has the leadership qualities to represent you. And then you will embark on a campaign to get them to accomplish something important on their list of things to do. Then, you will continue this effort by getting them into a leadership position at a local or state level. One would have to be a raging narcissist to decide for themselves to go into the political scene (Or want to increase their speaking fees and sell more books…) Leadership develops really well when people around you encourage you to take issues and projects on.

SUPRA SEX

Jobs in the First Earth (Battalion) are based on capabilities. Sex, age, color, or religious preferences are not considerations. Culture has, however, programmed men and women so that they feel pressure to relate to each other sexually. This sexual protocol can be overcome by a series of extended exercises requiring the absolute interdependence of all participants until a level is trust is developed that supersedes and rises above any kind of sexual relationship. Fortunately love is still the by-product. (First Earth Battalion Field Manual, Jim Cannon, 1979)

I recently learned about this New Agey experimental army project when Jon Ronson, author of The Men who Stare at Goats made an appearance on The Colbert Report last week. While I think that this Cannon dude smoked some good shit, the whole process of ‘winning the heart of the enemy through amorous gestures and sparkly eyes’ intrigued me. I then found the above passage in the field manual and I though it made a lot of sense. In fact it’s been my tactic for a while now and it works fantastically well.

Of course it also dawned on me that I am most likely intimately connected to one of them sparkly eyed psychic spies… When confronted he said: “I can’t talk about those things…” Well, it’s not like it’s classified anymore, the frickin’ manual is on the Internet! And maybe if I had been involved in such crazy research in the eighties I wouldn’t want to talk about it either LOL The Daddy and I are going see the movie together when I meet his family on Thanksgiving.

The Men Who Stare at Goats is coming out as a film starring two of my favorite hunks of man meat George Clooney and Ewan McGregor. And of course it’s been made into a goofy comedy.

But speaking of dubious research… I’ve been reading with great delight Mary Roach‘s Bonk. It is filled with gems of dubious research about sexuality through the 20th century.

When I bought the book I was actually looking for Becoming Batman: The Possibility of a Superhero and I had a sales girl hanging on me helping me to find the book. Usually when faced with a cute Chapter’s sales clerk I ask for the most perverted book I can think of just to see their reaction. But this time I simply said that I had to give this book to my boyfriend because it proves he has twice as much training as Batman. And she was all fascinated with this book she had never heard of. She said: “This may sound completely geeky but it must be a fascinating book!” I really need to get myself simple business cards with only my name and e-mail on them. This nerdy chick was really cute.. I missed a score!

I am spending the weekend in New York City. I have the use of a studio on the Upper West Side conveniently close to a man I am looking forward to meeting. He has written on the topic of Emotional Intelligence (EQ), something that is still largely misunderstood. I’m going to try to be aloof and not spend my whole time talking about his work however fascinating it is. Quick, think of charming girlie topics! Actually I hope we can go see Capitalism: A Love Story together.

It came out at work last week that I have more than one boyfriend. I made a point to say that I do not find men, that they find me. My co-worker, who is in a sense my client as I solve his technical SEO issues, joked that I was well-referenced. And I thought this was a great metaphor! However, there is more to being conveniently found by guys who want to get to know me, I have to have a hook and pertinent content to back it up so they subscribe to my feed Hahaha!

I had a restless night sandwiched in between the final chapters of Reichs’ Monday Mourning. <spoiler>The part where the perpetrator’s dungeon of doom and captives are discovered in the basement of a Pointe-Saint-Charles home</spoiler>. I’ll save you the gory details. At least the suspense has picked up, I was about to ditch the book just as I had Brown’s Digital Fortress recently. Oh and by the way, the full title of that Dan Brown book is Digital Fortress: A Thriller… I’ll be the judge of that.

<dream>I dreamt of Mr. M. and spent a part of the night trying to remember every detail. I do not have good recall of dreams. They are vivid as they happen and then are taken from me once I wake up. I saw him randomly and he took me to a remote place. I wasn’t necessarily happy to see him but as usual intrigued by his plans and story lines. I wish I could recall the details of our encounter but it was intense enough to cause me to scream (not out of horror.) Then he simply vanished abandoning me there. Another sexless aborted plan. Exciting but frustrating… and life goes on.</dream>

While he is long gone and may soon vanish from my memory… I have been waiting to follow-up on something… You see I am curious. He made a vague historical reference concerning Caesar (misspelling another name.) It took me a while to find the actual historical event (and which frickin’ Caesar he was referring to) and realize it was something out of the series Rome. I just started re-watching episodes 1-6 as they are the only ones I had originally kept. My tracker is still showing ETA 1y 9w until I can see the aforementioned episode… I shall not tell you what it is and from which episode, you should watch the whole series. It’s full of things you wish you could discuss at the water cooler but probably wont. I will soon discuss them here I cannot afford the DVDs and the Rogers DVD rental service (formerly Zipsomething) has sent me so many unplayable scratched disks that I gave up on it. I don’t want to search endlessly for blogger opinions about the storyline, I want to see it myself.

This morning I find this story in my Facebook feed: Teen Girl Charged With Sex Offense For Sending Nude Pictures of Herself. Oh dear what has this world come to?

Obviously sending a naked picture of one’s self to someone else is not a good idea espescially if you are not yet an adult. However, how can a girl be charged for possessing child pornography when the pictures are of herself? Isn’t this equal to saying she does not have the right to enjoy her own body? It is as insulting as a victim seeing her rapist(s) getting a fine rather than jailtime. And where do you draw the line as to what is sexy and what is indecent? I have a hard time believing that this is a criminal case but I may just be affected by double standards. What about a 15 year old boys who sends naked pictures of himself to other teens. While I have never read of such a case it suddenly seems more sinister. This is a behavior that is not criminal, it is influenced by the over-sexualization of teens in general. By a culture that presents teens indulging in all sorts of adult activities. However I strongly feel that this is a case of misconduct that should be addressed at the school, by the administration, parents and counselors. If other criteria are met it could fall into sexual harassment or misconduct. These kids are young, that process alone should give them pause before doing something else that is stupid. However people (parents?) have become whiny babies who love attention and would rather cause a scene than address it themselves (with their children) and discreetly like mature people. As it stands both teenagers could get juvenile detention AND find themselves on the registered sex offenders list. This list is becoming a repository of everybody and their cousin who once got drunk and took a piss in an alley only to be inadvertently seen by passers-by. The mass tacking of people on that registry and the paranoia it causes in everybody else should soon become an official factor on the list of risks for heart disease. However, inadvertently seeing boobies has never scarred anyone for life. I am going off on a tangent here because I think there is a difference between malice and stupidity. (Watch The Woodsman with Kevin Bacon, it’s a good movie) And in the interest of disclosure I am guilty of playing if you show me yours I’ll show you mine. Insert current technology into the mix and you can multiply the embarrassment factor by 1000 but it doesn’t make it a crime.

Oh, I should be working… I have a date this afternoon. I look forward to it.

On October 3rd, David Rakoff, author of Don’t Get Too Comfortable (VidLit) was talking about how the upper class is fetishizing food (full interview) referring to an in-depth article on high-end salt in The New York Times. It used to be that only luxury items were fetishized. Think of cigars, cars and wine. Today’s marketer has discovered that the moneyed and pompous need the validation obtained from paying exhorbitant prices for stuff that regular folks get at the 1$ store or for free as is the case for water and air.

It’s Martha Stewart’s fault!
Over the last 15 years, Martha Stewart, opened our eyes to the subtlety of everyday things discussing rolling pins, tea towels and even eggs at length in her magazines, books and tv shows. I know this for a fact because I have most of her magazines and books. I like quality items just like the next person. I know that a $28 bottle of wine is better than an $8 one. But there comes a point where the price-quality ratio goes out the window and a luxury item becomes only an empty statement of wealth. You see, I’m sure there isn’t much difference between 18$/pound salt and 5$/pound salt. I don’t care if you tell me that this artisanal salt was collected by a noted French brain surgeon who laboured extensively to scoop up the fleur-de-sel with a Marseille souvenir spoon. It’s just salt, dig a hole, scrape it with a stick and add a pinch.