Sex is FREE; but they get you on the accessories!!!

I tried to comment on this post on Jezebel but it didn’t work for some reason so here it goes.

There is controversy brewing about Dr. Bachmann’s practice in the media. Last night, Jon Stewart and Jerry Seinfeld did a very funny segment on Mr. Bachmann’s apparently gay affect. Jon called him a hypocrite which shocked me. I am a coach myself, I teach men to attain relationship and sexual bliss. A lot of that involves establishing a strategy and putting in into play over many months. Journalists deride the Bachmann’s in various ways bout it is obvious to me that these are two sincere individuals. You can’t be sincere AND a hypocrite at the same time. You can be sincere AND completely wrong that’s for sure. I have researched the ‘pray the gay away’ movement and come to the conclusion that the only people who sincerely think that homosexuality is a choice are the people who have chosen not to be gay. I am someone who has specifically chosen my lifestyle and constructed a life of bliss based on my vision of adulthood since I was 12 (i.e. being an influential person in the life of my friends and enjoying a non-monogamous lifestyle of knowledge, play and sex) The Bachmanns seem to me like people who have accomplished that as well. They seem happy together, sound sincere when they speak and have raised 5 children and fostered two dozen more. As a couple who devotes time every single day to the welfare of other, they are exceptional. They are walking the walk on what THEY sincerely believe unlike the Koch whores who make up a considerable amount of Congress. Considering what appears to be Mr. Bachmann’s choice, it’s probably not easy! I can’t deride them for making a choice and sticking to it and I understand why their first jest would be to get others in on their bliss!

The caveat is that I know from experience that embarking into a ‘role’ in adulthood or a relationship can be, as Michele says: ‘Bondage!’ and lead to heart disease, depression and regret in some people. Life is kinda short and that tends to hit home in the 40s. And you thought that was a mid-life crisis?!

Now as much as I admire them for their family skills, they would be unlikely to admire me. I gladly travel on the edge of society and every time I’ve gone once around, I discover that the edge has moved a little bit outward and once again I go. I upgrade my knowledge of how people think, feel and love on a daily basis. The Bachmanns, however, are running on legacy software. Faith is one thing. For instance, it’s quite cool that God speaks to Michele directly. Hey God speaks directly to me too! But I suspect her entourage may also have helped convince her to go into politics. Religion is a whole nother ball game though. It’s a program. And religious people’s reasoning is based on a database of information which has little to do with facts or science. Clusters of people who run on the same legacy software like Catholicism or Evangelical Christianism are natively compatible and they get along swell. Often these people are in the same age group so their priorities are similar as well. But their legacy software is full of security holes (superstitions) that pose a REAL threat to progressive society. But when legacy software people try to broadcast their antiquated ideas and pseudo facts to a generation under 30, we collectively return a WTF?! error. And that happens en masse during political campaigns.

There are moneyed interests whom, after years of investing in think tanks, have figured out a way to hack the legacy software and install it in all aspects of U.S. life with devastating effect. And kudos to them for acting at the exact right time when people who run on buggy and insecure legacy software are still young enough to be bought and used in politics, notably the U.S. Congress. And what a resounding success it has been for the roll back of human rights in the U.S.

Just so you understand my position here :

It is wrong to prevent people from unionizing or uniting for a cause when corporations can have unlimited amount of lawyers. It is abusive to prevent people from expressing their gender and sexuality. It is psychologically abusive to indoctrinate children into a religion. It is anti-humanistic to remove access to sexual health preventative medical care. It is just plain cruel to declare women unable to make decisions about their own heath and reproduction. And, it is also wrong to micro-manage a soldier’s career based on whether or not they attend religious rallies organized by some of their leaders.

You know when you grow up and suddenly realize that your parents don’t know any better, are blatantly wrong, are somewhat embarrassingly daft. Well it must be how some young adults are feeling in the U.S. At least I hope that that is how they are feeling because they are stuck interacting with people who refuse to upgrade their database to include recently acquired knowledge, scientific progress and a reasonable understanding of how people experience their lives today. Unfortunately we can’t enlighten them against their will. We could try to influence them by writing what is important to us on 100$ bills! Perhaps Colbert SuperPAC can make a difference even though progressives are a few years lacking in that effort.

It is important to push DIFFERENT people into politics. Sincere people who make sense. Michele and Marcus represent a subset of the population who are working hard to turn all of us into the gut bacteria of giant multinational corporations. That is their hopes and dreams for the future.

But take the case of Ron Paul. I don’t know if his policies are all feasible yet but researching them is quite an adventure! Heck he could be sincere AND wrong like the Bachmanns but most of what he says makes enough sense to me to be involved into researching whether or not ending the Federal Reserve is feasible or even a good idea. Mr. Paul is sincere and consistent and that has netted him his own army of followers and helpers. When Ron Paul speaks you get the impression he is speaking to the priorities of his core supporters who affect his work through volunteering, not just giving money!!! So it is possible for non-billionaires to affect the quality of politician we get!

So your homework today is to change the world changing the politicians. You will look around you and try to spot that one person under 30 whom you feel has the leadership qualities to represent you. And then you will embark on a campaign to get them to accomplish something important on their list of things to do. Then, you will continue this effort by getting them into a leadership position at a local or state level. One would have to be a raging narcissist to decide for themselves to go into the political scene (Or want to increase their speaking fees and sell more books…) Leadership develops really well when people around you encourage you to take issues and projects on.

PETa offers actresses the opportunity to pose naked and attract attention to themselves and re-energize or boost their career or rise their decorative stardom. Let’s face it, there are few people who advocate for the kicking of puppies, so a PETA ad is safe and as a bonus, delivers all the attention-whoring punch of a Playboy pictorial without the stigma.

I appreciate Sasha Grey’s effort to diversify her activities and career but while some of my guy friends talk incessantly about how hot she is, they have yet to read her mainstream media articles or interviews or watch her mainstream movies and therefore the Sasha Grey conversation begins and ends rather quickly. I think her fan base is ONLY interested in her lack of a gag reflex so perhaps PETA’s aims to reach the porn gobbling masses with this message will not get much reach. And that is too bad because there is more to Sasha Grey than the extreme and unsafe sexual party tricks she can perform on screen for money (a little bit more…)

The day that the millions of children who are enslaved into work or sexual slavery (espescially girls) get to go to school and get at minimum a 10th grade education, I will start to really care about the general welfare of cats and dogs in North America. People should not contribute to PETA financially because it has no significant effect on global welfare. In North America, pets are products and even people who vehemently scold others about animal welfare dress up their toy dogs and drive the market for questionable practices of massively inbreeding expensive dogs leaving them susceptible to terrible congenital malformations and painful diseases. Treatment of animals is unlikely to change until people recognize that animals are animals and not anthropomorphized accessories that drive a billion dollar pet accessory industry.

While pets will never seek revenge on us for mistreating them, millions of forgotten, mistreated and enslaved children around the world will eventually wreck havoc on a global scale… or at least those who survive to adulthood.

Don’t give money to Peta, instead, foster cats and dogs from the shelter so they are not stuck in a cage for months I’ve done it! If you can’t have a dog full-time, it is a pleasant experience to keep a cast-off puppy from the shelter and properly socialize it. In fact, you should encourage everybody who shows interest in buying a cat or dog to do this for a month just to make sure they understand the implications of ADULT pet ownership.

If they reply: “But I want a cute puppy!” Kick them for me!

ETA: Given that my neutered male cat, can be convinced to have sex by an un-spayed female, the message on the ad wasn’t necessarely true… so I re-mixed it to something factual and straight-to-the-point.

Instead of an article about how sex is FREE, I give you one on how they get you on the accessories.

Last week I went into Birks on Saint-Catherine Street to look at the estate jewelry display. I try to not go into Birks too much as the glare of diamonds hurts my eyes and I hear a whole continent of Africans weep for the loss of their children and relatives to the unethical practice of diamond mining.

If you want to have some fun at their expense, you can go shopping for a diamond (preferably as a male-female pairing) and ask the clerk where the diamonds come from. The combination of sweating because he cannot answer this question factually (he doesn’t know) and the utter fear of not making a sale by causing a ‘couple’s tiff’ should leave you entertained for days.

The only piece of estate jewelry I found to my liking (that did not have diamonds) was a beautiful Art Deco-ish locket of enameled green gold attributed to ‘famous US designer’ (no actual designer name, duh!) Everything in the manufacturing of the piece pointed to the 1950′s as a date of manufacturing. Price? 9,800$ And this is why I continue to buy my antique and vintage jewelry from estate sales and eBay.

The truth of the matter is that jewelry has little value compared to the price that it is being sold at. Sure, the gold it is made of has a value but it is only a small part of the price of the item. Gems are also overpriced. To believe the price tags on Birks’ gem jewelry, I would be a millionaire for my own collection of gems LOL

But what about diamonds and the whole racket of engagement, anniversary, promise ring market? In 2003, I listened to a conversation where one woman talked about how 1 carat used to be the ‘norm’ for an engagement ring but that now it should be 2 carats. Hmmm, where did this money-grubbing-whore wisdom come from?! Marketing! Perhaps this was an extreme case because I doubt would-be fiancees actually wonder “Should my boyfriend spend 1 month of salary or two on my engagement ring?!”

This whole culture is entirely fabricated and has become quite sad really. Diamonds are stockpiled and aplenty (not rare at all) and must be sold so after a decade of finding new reasons to sell diamonds from anniversary bands to spinster right-hand rings now diamonds have become a way to make amends.

There’s a diamond solution for everything. Now that everyone knows that the price for a husband to get out of the doghouse for assaulting a maid in a fancy spa is a 4-million dollar diamond ring, girls everywhere will clamor for rich assholes with even more vigor. But what about your average husband?

The people who made the video included above (Saatchi & Sattchi) figured that he should pay his getting out of the doghouse fine at JCPenney’s Jewelry department.

This commercial hits a new low in guilt marketing.

What he said!

I have always loved looking at jewelry, in fact I collect antique, tribal and religious jewelry from around the world. I have also collected unset gems and make jewelry for myself and my friends. I already own the fantastic 7 carat emerald-cut flawless sea foam aquamarine I would want to see on my finger everyday for the rest of my life. The fact that I could afford it doesn’t make it less pretty.

When I see a diamond I see death. Or, I can see a world changing opportunity.

1 Amorique diamond ring from Birks = 5,500$ tax not included (Notice the incredibly guilt inducing name, because it’s not love if you buy one of their regular diamond rings!)

With this money you can support 25 African businesses through Kiva.org in a rolling yearly fund that could last forever, or, take back your money after 5 years and spend it on something fun. By then you will have supported over 125 businesses. Default on loans is only 2% and money is re-paid as it comes in from the lendee making it available for withdrawal before the loan is fully repaid. Kiva.org also offers you a profile page which you can share with your friends and family. If you already have most everything you need for your home you can also invite your family to contribute for you and help build your Kiva.org fund.

I will be going on with my charitable arts project but I will begin it in mid August. This one I cannot do in secrecy so I will have to come out of the closet for it. For now though, I have gotten a large contract to deliver quickly. As I apply 10% of my income to charity (currently Kiva.org) I can count on funding my own project 15-20% in the next few months and this is the last I will mention of it here.

UPDATE: This article triggered a few interesting conversations none of which had much to do with the philanthropic question that I posed which might suggest that men are more likely to pay to have bad things done to themselves rather than good things done for others LOL This article also appeared on a week where I had an interview published in a very straight mainstream blog. But see the comment section for my follow-up on this experiment.

I don’t know about you but I found this page to be very funny. I come from a world where I get things by asking nicely and by doing something for someone before I ask anything of them.

As a domme in a world of BDSM it appears I am doing this all wrong LOL But I wonder if I could apply BDSM rules to philantropic dreams.

I dream of living in a lifestyle where I can spend my whole day just doing what I please and not having to worry about paying my bills. I started on my way to this lifestyle by reducing my expenses by at least 50%. Over the past 3 years, I have worked 50% of my time and taken the resulting free time to spend with my child, do everything for myself (DIY) and returned to volunteering.

I now TAKE the time to do random things for other people, often people I don’t even know. I don’t apply my time that strategically but where it is most urgently needed. I am also quite secretive about it. I cannot expect people who have almost nothing to be able to repay me in kind but I do enjoy the karma. Karma is a valuable commodity that repays me with interest in surprising, random and fun ways.

I have taken the whole month of June “off” and stayed home to write a website about a criminal who is ripping off 2-3 people a week. Originally I had decided that I would travel to New York City but I was not able to raise enough cash in May. I fell down the stairs and thus, re-injuring my back. I had many other things to do but I got sidetracked big time.

For a whole month now I have been reading, researching and calling countless people in an effort to deconstruct cons, scams and crimes. I confess to working a little but only billed the equivalent of 7 hours for a whole month. Unfortunately, my Kiva.org investments will be almost nil this month as I can’t scrap enough cash to pay all my bills. This month, instead of donating into my own account, I sent out a gift certificate so Yoshi can start his own fund. I hope he will continue to contribute to it in the long run. But my “vacation” has cost me more than I planned for and I didn’t even buy anybody souvenirs!

The low notes of my “vacation”.

Today I had an incredibly pissed lady on the phone who wanted to sue me… why? She hired that convicted felon who had a 100% fake CV to work in her supermarket where he defrauded at least four employees in 2 weeks. No wait, that is HER mistake. She was mad at me because I mentioned the supermarket by name and it includes her employer’s first and last name. I removed the exact name of the supermarket at her bequest but I should have left it in just for the fact that this particular banner owner is notorious for requiring that people refer to the supermarket by her name rather than the banner name! You know you can’t cry when your stock falls after making mistakes in business; ask Martha Stewart or Arthur Anderson, founders of famous and later infamous eponymous companies.

The high notes of my “vacation”.

Getting to collaborate with the police, talking to victims and offering them answers and moral support and gathering the basis of a what could be a great book.

So what about July?!

I have begun working on my next project but I do not know yet if I will be able to offset my living expenses to find enough time to put it together in July and deploy it in August. This project will cost between 3 000-5 000 dollars and will impact 100-200 4-24 year olds over 6 months. It is supposed to return enough material to publish something amazing that will likely change perceptions of youth for thousands of people in our country. The resulting experience documentation and instructions will be released under Creative Commons and applicable in any city in the World. But it’s still a secret I have one assistant and one education specialist working with me right now. I am not worried about raising the needed money for the supplies as I have wonderful business contacts in related companies. I am worried about becoming homeless in the process as I do have bills to pay.

So here are my living expenses for a month so that some great people can come along and pay them for me In return I offer my ear and opinion on life and love. While no topic is taboo, I do not offer phone sex. I offer something that is worth much more: a unique chance for you to talk openly and confidentially with a woman who has a deep understanding of the human soul, understands men, has vast popular culture knowledge and candor on life, sex, relationship, women and love.

So here we go, I am now officially an Internet beggar.

Rent: 995$ (Adopted*)
Heating: 144$ (Adopted*)
Food: 300$ Available
Internet: 60$ Available
Phone: 0$
Kiva.org fund: 100-150$ Available
Personal care (spa, hair, etc.): 200$ Available
Clothing and shoes: 200$ Available
Travel expenses: 200$ Available

( *Thanks mom and dad )

I will announce in 2 weeks if I am doing my mysterious project in July and each person who has personally contributed will get news of the progress. I can be reached at evavavoom (at) gmail (dot) com.